I am not old enough to have been around when there was no mobile phones and no internet, although it was limited when I was a child. I have missed out on experiencing life as a young adult, without mobile phones, social networking and all your questions answered in just a couple of seconds.
I guess you could say that I am lucky in a way that I don’t know any different and that these privileges just come naturally, and have led me to take them for granted.
But I wonder if in fact this has led me, as well as thousands of others in my generation to become anti-social, intelligence cheats.
Let me explain..
If I have a question, instead of going to the library for example to find out the answer, or picking up the telephone to ask a family member or a friend. I will simply pick up my mobile phone and search for the answer on Google. This leads me to millions of answers which will appear on my screen in relevance order and I can search through them. Whereas before mobile phones, you would have to go out of your way to ask and find out the answer, making you socialise. Although this is much more convenient than things were before, we are now lacking social conversation as we don’t have to do it as often. If a young person is studying for an exam and are lacking knowledge on a particular topic; instead of taking more notes and paying more attention in class, they can just sit at home, tap the question into their phone or computer; and be instantly met with all the answers they require, without leaving the house. Yes this is brilliant and practical! But is this cheating? Now we are becoming lazy and don’t even have to try to get the answers we want. We no longer have to sit and work through loads of textbooks to find our answers.
Everything can now be done online. From ordering your food shopping, to booking cinema tickets, to a table at a restaurant. It is all made so easy for us!
Anyway back to the point. What I find hard to think about is when things were simpler and more, well basic. Meeting up with a friend and actually sticking to the time. Not being able to call or text if you have to cancel or are running late. Just sticking to your words and being there on time and sticking to appointments.
Some of my friends have recently been on dating sites, or have been set up on a blind date. They did not know what the person looked like in real life, or anything about them. But would they just go and meet them without doing the background research on them first? Of course not! They search frantically through Facebook for their profile, see what they have been up to lately, their likes and dislikes, work history, you can even see what music and films they are into! So before you have even met them you know nearly everything about them! So when the time comes to meet them you don’t have to take the time to find out anywhere near as much information as you normally would on the first couple of dates, because you have done the research and their past/present has already been seen by you. Yes, it can be a good way to steer the conversation towards something they are passionate about, but surely this leaves them pre judged? And there will be many awkward silences?
When I meet someone I like it to be a fresh start. To meet them in the flesh without judging their appearance through a profile photo online. I would like to find out about them from the start without knowing it all before I have met them. It’s just more social, and the mystery is still there, it can be exciting.
Say you plan a trip with your partner, it could be anywhere. You can go online and see all the reviews that people have written about that place; and if it is negative it could throw you off and make you decide not to go there. But maybe there likes and opinions are completely different to yours. So they could have written a bad review, but in your eyes you could have loved it and written a good one!
So my question is- Does the internet ruin mystery?
In my opinion it definitely does. Do you agree, and is this a good or a bad thing?