Does The Internet Ruin Mystery?

I am not old enough to have been around when there was no mobile phones and no internet, although it was limited when I was a child. I have missed out on experiencing life as a young adult, without mobile phones, social networking and all your questions answered in just a couple of seconds.

I guess you could say that I am lucky in a way that I don’t know any different and that these privileges just come naturally, and have led me to take them for granted.

But I wonder if in fact this has led me, as well as thousands of others in my generation to become anti-social, intelligence cheats.

Let me explain..

If I have a question, instead of going to the library for example to find out the answer, or picking up the telephone to ask a family member or a friend. I will simply pick up my mobile phone and search for the answer on Google. This leads me to millions of answers which will appear on my screen in relevance order and I can search through them. Whereas before mobile phones, you would have to go out of your way to ask and find out the answer, making you socialise. Although this is much more convenient than things were before, we are now lacking social conversation as we don’t have to do it as often. If a young person is studying for an exam and are lacking knowledge on a particular topic; instead of taking more notes and paying more attention in class, they can just sit at home, tap the question into their phone or computer; and be instantly met with all the answers they require, without leaving the house. Yes this is brilliant and practical! But is this cheating? Now we are becoming lazy and don’t even have to try to get the answers we want. We no longer have to sit and work through loads of textbooks to find our answers.

Everything can now be done online. From ordering your food shopping, to booking cinema tickets, to a table at a restaurant. It is all made so easy for us!

Anyway back to the point. What I find hard to think about is when things were simpler and more, well basic. Meeting up with a friend and actually sticking to the time. Not being able to call or text if you have to cancel or are running late. Just sticking to your words and being there on time and sticking to appointments.

Some of my friends have recently been on dating sites, or have been set up on a blind date. They did not know what the person looked like in real life, or anything about them. But would they just go and meet them without doing the background research on them first? Of course not! They search frantically through Facebook for their profile, see what they have been up to lately, their likes and dislikes, work history, you can even see what music and films they are into! So before you have even met them you know nearly everything about them! So when the time comes to meet them you don’t have to take the time to find out anywhere near as much information as you normally would on the first couple of dates, because you have done the research and their past/present has already been seen by you. Yes, it can be a good way to steer the conversation towards something they are passionate about, but surely this leaves them pre judged? And there will be many awkward silences?

When I meet someone I like it to be a fresh start. To meet them in the flesh without judging their appearance through a profile photo online. I would like to find out about them from the start without knowing it all before I have met them. It’s just more social, and the mystery is still there, it can be exciting.

Say you plan a trip with your partner, it could be anywhere. You can go online and see all the reviews that people have written about that place; and if it is negative it could throw you off and make you decide not to go there. But maybe there likes and opinions are completely different to yours. So they could have written a bad review, but in your eyes you could have loved it and written a good one!

So my question is- Does the internet ruin mystery?

In my opinion it definitely does. Do you agree, and is this a good or a bad thing?

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27 thoughts on “Does The Internet Ruin Mystery?

  1. trudirosehamer says:

    Hi Lauren – I remembed before there were mobile phones. I was a teenager and when we made arrangements to meet each other we were 100% reliable. Yes, the internet makes things convenient, but it also destroys social skills and makes things too easy. I remember for my first job when I was 16, being sent to the library to look on microfilm for old newspapers – finding things was much more rewarding – just slower! Very interesting post 🙂

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  2. dougstuber says:

    OH the internet ruins many things in your life if you let it. But is also the ultimate truth-spreader. like this:

    Big Bear
    We ignored you after 22 – 30 million died
    in World War II. Favored China, reliably
    corrupt, into having a Feudal class, but you lacked
    the prowess to extract your own oil, we could still
    do oil business with you, Big Bear, but the rest
    went to China: the shipping, manufacturing, even
    new mergers wherein Chinese firms now own Volvo
    and the PC division of IBM! So Sochi was to be
    Putin’s horse, so someone burned Kiev right then!
    (CIA?) Distressed, due to the viciousness of events
    Around the globe, neighborhood, we divert attention
    from our own digression at home to a potential
    (yet again) war in a third party’s country, Ukraine,
    which NATO is willing to exterminate in order to lure
    today’s tanks into a larger skirmish in case the ISIS
    crisis flames out. Gotta have back up wars and back
    them up in case the main wars sputter. It’s a new
    Pentagon directive, as witnessed by the annual troop
    and ship movements every March on the North/South
    Korean border. Tom “Obama-Hawk” drones fly again.

    Copyright, Doug Stuber, 2015. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this blog’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given, and with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.

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  3. rustygarnersmith says:

    The answer my friend is yes. Today no one has to take any chances. It’s like the package is unwrapped, and you can see what you’re getting without any surprises. It’s too easy now for people to see what they’re getting into. It’s great if you are trying to avoid scandal or perverts, but yes the mystery is gone.

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  4. courtjg says:

    It does and it doesn’t. If that even makes sense? For example….I use the internet to ruin the mystery of movies: I’ll find a movie on TV, then get curious about the plot – so I “wiki” it, read the plot, and then I think “well now there is no point to watching this!” It’s really dumb of me. haha. But I also argue that the internet has made studying so much easier, and with my new job as a researcher, I can simply Google (weird how that is a verb now?) how to do frequencies or functions on Excel. Sometimes I long for the simplicity of “back in the day” and truly wonder what it would be like to live then…

    Very thought-provoking post!

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  5. LloydRosen says:

    I’m sure it does to some extent. But it has opened up so many worlds for so many people. There was a time when a mystery might remain a mystery, but because of technology…. We can experience life in many ways, more than we ever have before.

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  6. nikkispeaks says:

    I think the internet has many benefits, but I definately see your argument. And I’m guilty of alot of what you wrote about as well. Maybe its not that the internet ruins mystery, but more about people wanting and knowing instantly.

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  7. sadnesstheory says:

    No, it doesn’t have to. Internet can sometimes be more social. So there are pros and cons with everything. This is an interesting post 😀 . Thank you for this and stopping by my blog, liking my post! Let me know what you think. I will certainly check out your blog more!

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  8. mindroamer says:

    I would say back in those days things were more raw since there was no overdose through media. And therefore maybe more mysterious too. Take music for example. For some bands you had to go to the local record store to check out the pictures on the LP’s to at least know how those guys were looking making the music. Internet has brought a lot of advantages, but still I am grateful to have experienced the pre-internet age too.

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  9. G. S. Feet says:

    I was a teen way back in the pre-‘net days when our dinosaurs didn’t have phones installed in them and I can honestly say “mystery” is one of the least of the things the internet has ruined. For example, if you piss the wrong person off in a chatroom or anywhere really, he or she can cause you distress up to and including completely ruining your life all without having ever met you. It all depends on the hacking skill the person has.

    Of course, our dinos also lacked GPS so we got lost much more often and back then, if you got lost and didn’t have directions written down you were seriously screwed because you had no cell phone to call your destination to get you there.

    It was easier to lie to our parents and girlfriends back then though. As long as you had good alibis and everyone stuck to the story, no one could prove otherwise. “We’re going camping” gave you license to go to the moon as far as Mum and Dad knew.

    One thing the internet has seriously changed, however, is your generation’s expectations of privacy. You live in a much more open world than I ever did growing up. You can post things on your blogs, Instagrams, or Facebook pages we would NEVER have made public if at all possible.

    A guy I heard said it best in a post similar to this one, he said, “The current generation is paradoxically more connected and more alone than any other in history.”

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  10. Dan says:

    It’s funny that even us old codgers have been sucked into the instant information hole. Another thing that I just take for granted now, being able to learn anything I want anytime I want to. I lived more of my life without that ability than with it. Like you write, it’s made us more knowledgable, but probably not more social.

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